Buddy, that is a tough one.
Been there, No easy answer.
In my case it was just best she ended up leaving town, thus making it both easy and difficult for me.
I miss her, but at least she is no longer here to distract my thoughts for too many hours during the day.
I really feel for you, as I know what it like, however the double life thing will eventually drive you insane, especially when you receive late nights texts, and then have to try and explain 1) who is texting you so late, and why you have deleted the message.
That night would have been the most stressful of my life, (blamed it on a drug deal).
All the best
I wish you all the best, because whatever you do will tear at your heart somehow.
If you have resolved to stay with your family, then great, - if you want some real life horror stories to help you stay with your resolve, then PM me and I'll give you some of the typical detail that lands on the separated/divorced father.
I went through all this some 12 years ago and am only now in the process of finally getting rid of the object of my very much mistaken affections.
Gee Mate! I really feel for ya.
It will get better
Listen, buddy, if you're having those feelings its time to be open and honest with yourself and your missus and kids.
So if the "escort" says to you: "i love you, I want to spend my life with you, run away with me..." you would, but 'cos ur not so sure about it you'll "cut your losses" and stay with the mrs and sprogs. If I understand correctly.
That's weak and spineless behaviour and its what gives men a bad name. I know 'cos I was in that situation, and instead of telling my mrs "we've changed and I don't love you anymore so we have to split", I started a relationship while still married, and the shit hit the fan later.
There's a big difference between the two ways of ending a relationship. And it makes a huge difference to the fallout you'll have for the rest of your life.
If you don't love your wife anymore, and are open to finding love with someone else, why stay with her? You only have a short life to enjoy, why would you choose to spend it in chains?
So what if it costs you money? What value is your freedom?
I'd rather live off the DPB than spend my life in prison.
The kids will be alright if you & the mrs put them first and explain things in an adult sensible way.
OK so their school grades might drop, they might get into drugs and booze, might need to see a shrink, but they'll get over it. Kids get their own lives very quickly, which is way more pressing to them than what their olds are doing.
Brings to mind a thread I started and forgot about called "what is love?" or some such.
My theory is that put a guy on a desert island with 4 girls, he'll eventually think he's in love with one of them.
I think the majority of people think they found love when it's not really something that lasts forever.
How many married people are totally positive they won't come across someone else down the line who they "love" more? ...and another one after that?
But man...to feel like this about an escort is just plain stupid. Think about it. You think she's the kind of lady who you can ride off into the sunset with, buy a ranch and have 15 kids? You can plow the fields and the little lady can change the nappies, cook the vittles and give you a spongebath when you come home sweaty and full of dirt? How about 10 years down the line?
Or maybe you can provide her with all the shoes, bags, jewellery and clothes she needs, and hire maids to do the chores so she doesn't spoil her nails. And while you're at work she won't fuck the Greek gardener, tattooed pool cleaner, Italian pizza boy, and Swedish au pair girl from next door?
Anyway, spoze this post is hard to follow, cos Im trying to watch the cricket at the same time.
Let me summarise:
1.Think CAREFULLY with your brain not your cock (I've been told this many times myself..it's hard)
2.If you want a relationship with another woman, leave your present relationship FIRST.
3.Hookers are for fun, they do it cos they want the money, don't kid yourself otherwise. If you think you're special to the girl you're an idiot.
Your problem is not how not to fall in love with a hooker, it's what are you doing staying in an unhappy relationship. Answer that and you will find the right path grasshopper.
danbo, that is funny. Well put in a nutty way LOL