In developed countries, they make enough money from the salary, they do not rely on tips.
>> expectation that you will pay more than the posted rates?
Another thing common in America, absent in most developed countries. We have simple "trade practices" or "fair trading" laws which basically means the price you see is the price you pay; the service/product is what is described before you pay; it does not change afterwards. You will not see the rubbish advertised on tv over there, over here.
>> I'm not at all interested in full service. My ideal is shower, massage, and handjob.
Then you do NOT want private escorts, agencies, or most parlors. You want specifically a Sensual Massage parlour with no extras. Hand relief is standard service in a SM parlour. (In America a "massage parlour" is a front for a brothel, not here: a brothel is different to a massage parlour.)
>> Should I be worried about offending by turning down sex?
Not at all. Some parlours will offer extras (you touching her externally; touching intimately or digital penetration; her giving you BJ; you giving her oral sex; and [rarely for non-Asian but almost always for Asian] full service); extras means you pay extra price for that extra service, and it is known at the beginning (not hidden, no surprises). No problem with turning down the extras, the standard non-extra massage service will be good regardless. People here do not get "offended" unless they have been watching too much foreign tv, we are pretty down to earth.
>> Do people prefer private escorts, agencies, or parlors? A parlor where I can get a drink and get comfortable with the situation before choosing a girl seems ideal to me.
- Private escorts are invariably full service (Sensual Massage with hand relief is much cheaper). Their erotic massage may be good, but usually not.
- Agencies are straight brothels.
- Parlours come in two types:
Full service, where you can chat up the girls before choosing one; the rooms are proper bedrooms with an ensuite and a bed
- Sensual Massage
These advertise "no sex" but over here that means hand relief is included; the rooms have massage tables not beds; there wil will one or two shared showers; none that I know provide the opportunity for chatting up the girls before choosing. You can do you choosing from visiting New Zealand Girls/Sensual Massage tab; then make a booking.
Just to complete the picture for you, Therapeutic Massage means the girl remains dressed, no erotic bits, no hand relief.
>> What parlor would people recommend ?
For exactly what you are looking for, erotic massage with hand relief, not full service:
1 Total Relax on Karangahape Rd at Queen St. The quality of the sensual massage is better. No touching. $140 ph.
2 LBD at Dominion Rd Balmoral. "Mt Eden" on NZG. Middling to good quality of erotic massage, depending on the girl, price is commensurate $120/$140. All touching externally is included. All the girls provide extras (you pay extra for the extra service), the extras depend on the girl. No full service.
Both places have separate advertisements for each girl on NZG.
3 There are quite a few Asian SM parlours, much cheaper prices, but I wouldn't recommend any.
4 There are a couple of private SM providers, but my experience is, they are lousy at returning phone calls; for a visitor here for a short time, I would recommend the first two. Other cities are better served with private SM providers.