Page 18 of 18 FirstFirst ... 8161718
Results 171 to 177 of 177

Thread: How many of you are married?

  1. #171
    Regular Contributor Pro Membership
    Join Date
    Nov 2017
    Posts
    54
    Reviews Given
    2
    Credits
    1,072
    Items Activate Pro Membership

    Default

    Married/together for maybe 20 years now.

    We have kids which of course complicates everything.

    Started punting 2 months ago because it's got to the point now where it sometimes takes up to 2 weeks of begging for maybe 5 minutes of late night star-fishing when I am too tired to enjoy it.

    I've always really liked sex whereas she is indifferent. Combination of changing hormones, kids, work stress, etc I guess.

    So now I've found a way to have amazing sex with really hot attractive women.

    I feel a bit shit sometimes, but I am getting over it.

  2. #172
    Effkay's Avatar Contributor Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2017
    Location
    Perth WA
    Posts
    40
    Credits
    82

    Default

    Free Willie, I recommend an open and honest conversation.
    You need to know if you're a keeper.

  3. #173
    AF Jedi Non/Former NZG Escort or Agency
    Join Date
    Jun 2013
    Posts
    7,390
    Reviews Given
    1
    Items Activate Pro Membership

    Default

    Quote Originally Posted by Effkay View Post
    Free Willie, I recommend an open and honest conversation.
    You need to know if you're a keeper.
    I would completely disagree there .

    Every person , and therefore every relationship , is different .

    Some women will up and leave , no matter who you are , what you have done , where you are headed .

    Others will thank you for your honesty , and leave .

    Some will thank you for your honesty , and stay , but it won't be the same .

    Some will thank you for your honesty , and stay , and act like they don't overly care , when then makes you wonder how much they care , so it won't be the same .

    And my gut feeling is that a lot ( including a lot of guys ) will tolerate 'indescretions' , especially if they realise there are things wrong in a relationship , but not enough to end it . What they DON'T want , is to be confronted by the fact that it might happen , it has happened , who with , etc . If they don't know , they can't be 100% sure , BUT if they have a confession , they may feel they have to take action , which obviously may be leaving , or doing the same , and TELLING YOU .

    I suspect that a lot of people don't actually want 100% honesty , unless they know it will all be 100% roses .

  4. #174
    Wade's Avatar AF Millennium Member Pro Membership
    Join Date
    Sep 2016
    Posts
    1,282
    Reviews Given
    16
    Credits
    1,330
    Items Activate Pro Membership

    Default

    Willie, I agree with Plats (there really is a first time for everything!)
    nothing to be gained out of having the conversation. So long as you are able to deal with feeling a bit shit at times and your wife is happy and oblivious to whats going on, then everyone will carry on none the wiser and be OK.
    Telling her about it will only serve to relieve your conscience and upset her. Telling her is totally self serving for you, with nothing to gain from doing it.
    Sounds like you are doing it just for the sex. keep it at that.

  5. #175
    Regular Contributor Pro Membership
    Join Date
    Nov 2017
    Posts
    54
    Reviews Given
    2
    Credits
    1,072
    Items Activate Pro Membership

    Default

    Thanks Wade and Plats, very good advice from you both!

    You are right Wade, mentioning escorts would be a massive mistake and would only be to salve my conscience (and i also don't have enough boxes or suitcases to fit all my stuff in!).

    Funnily enough we had a chat about fixing our marriage up recently, and have both agreed to try harder. It's still very early days on that one in terms of whether it will make a difference or not in this particular area.

    It also doesn't help that there are a few high profile and absolutely smoking hot escorts in Wellington that I haven't gotten around to visiting yet... Why is all this life stuff suddently so damn tricky!!??!!

  6. #176
    In Training Junior Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2014
    Posts
    24
    Credits
    27

    Default

    Hi everyone.

    I am married and love my wife a million red m&m's but like Willy the sex has dried up to nothing. It's a mission to get any interest these days which makes it tough.

    As far as telling her about any punting, no way. It would make Hiroshima look like a small firecracker, and there would be a lot of hurt and pain for everyone.

  7. #177
    Contributor Junior Member
    Join Date
    Jan 2018
    Location
    Tauranga
    Posts
    27
    Credits
    65

    Default

    We met when we were 16, but being a long distance relationship, it shrivel;led on the vine. She got married and later divorced. We met up again and eventually married. That was 35 years ago. She did admit to me that her ex had accused her of being frigid, but I attributed that to his abuse to her.
    Admittedly, our sex life was rather slow, she getting to bed late, then reading until I fell asleep. But when she got aroused, sex was good.
    Unfortunately, she has a neural problem which has complicated matters, and I feel has now affected her attitude towards life. Menopause has not helped and she refused to take HRT. She then complained that sex hurt her, and made comments to me about trying to play snooker with a length of rope.
    So, eight years ago she declared that intimacy was no longer on the cards, leaving me high and dry. And that has been the case since then. I have been mulling over the situation for a long time now and finally decided to do something about it. Our relationship is now one of pure companionship. We no longer touch. I got a present for my recent birthday, but not even a kiss or a hug.
    Being in my mid-sixties and in good health, I still have a need for warmth, intimacy and even sex. This has caused me to look towards WLs and since I started exploring this avenue, I have been very pleasantly surprised. My attitude towards a WL is much more sympathetic. I have chosen to indulge in the older WL, who will hopefully be warmer and empathetic to my situation. They may not be quite as svelte as the younger girls, but then, neither am I.
    My only problem now is that this could get a bit addictive, and also making sure that the budget balances out.

User Tag List

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •