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    Quote Originally Posted by storm4u View Post
    Appreciate it being made sticky but I do want to reitterate that the definitions I have given here are mine. There are some out there in the T community who will not necessarily agree with me. Some see a differance between CD and TV, some CD take offence at the sexual referance but I do point out that I havent said 'All' CD do it for sexual gratification. DragQueens may not agree with me but largely I believe they are generally accept.
    Thanks again and I welcome the chance to discuss, so ask away. I am VERY open.
    It would be a boring world if everybody agreed on everything .....

    I'll take what you said as correct untill someone else ( qualified to say ) refutes it ....

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    Quote Originally Posted by storm4u View Post
    Coming to terms with understanding oneself, being open about who and what you are, learning to accept a change in your sexuality are huge things.
    I speak up and out so that people have a chance to understand Trans so if you want to ask questions of me, please do. I will answer all reasonable questions and debate but I am not here for ridicule and will not stand personal attacks.
    I put this up to stimulate thought and understanding with tolerance.
    I'm wondering if its so hard to be open and out about it why not just hide it like many probably do. Having to come to terms with accepting the change must be very hard, why make your life harder than it need be by being so public about it. Im not saying theres anything wrong with the way you deal with it, but surely there must be pros and cons for both repressing it and coming out with it openly. I mean in some countries/cities it would be eaiser. NZ is probably not the easiest. I imagine in some very repressive countries it would be near impossible so you would have to repress it. Just wondering what was the tipping point?
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    Quote Originally Posted by redknight View Post
    I'm wondering if its so hard to be open and out about it why not just hide it like many probably do. Having to come to terms with accepting the change must be very hard, why make your life harder than it need be by being so public about it. Im not saying theres anything wrong with the way you deal with it, but surely there must be pros and cons for both repressing it and coming out with it openly. I mean in some countries/cities it would be eaiser. NZ is probably not the easiest. I imagine in some very repressive countries it would be near impossible so you would have to repress it. Just wondering what was the tipping point?
    Not sure what the 'tipping' point is sorry.
    As to the rest, most T's if you meet and chat with them, you will find that once they have found themselves, they are some of the most honest, happy people you could meet. Im proud of who and what I am, I am totally comfortable in myself. So are the other T's I know. They are living thier lives for real and not striving or trying to be something they arent. The arent living false or misleading lives but are living as who and what they are. Why should we be forced into lying and decieving? why cant we just be respected for who and what we are? Why do we have to lie and decieve just so others can be bigots and discriminate?
    I have found that most of the men who give me a hard time (there's not many) are actually the ones most likely to be wearing their wifes knickers, have a sexual hangup, likely to make a booking or are just plan jealous that we are out there, open and honest.
    Wonder what you are hiding hunn?

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    Quote Originally Posted by storm4u View Post
    Not sure what the 'tipping' point is sorry.
    As to the rest, most T's if you meet and chat with them, you will find that once they have found themselves, they are some of the most honest, happy people you could meet. Im proud of who and what I am, I am totally comfortable in myself. So are the other T's I know. They are living thier lives for real and not striving or trying to be something they arent. The arent living false or misleading lives but are living as who and what they are. Why should we be forced into lying and decieving? why cant we just be respected for who and what we are? Why do we have to lie and decieve just so others can be bigots and discriminate?
    I have found that most of the men who give me a hard time (there's not many) are actually the ones most likely to be wearing their wifes knickers, have a sexual hangup, likely to make a booking or are just plan jealous that we are out there, open and honest.
    Wonder what you are hiding hunn?
    I'm not giving you a hard time, so would you stop trying to insinuate that I am a closest trans. I never said you had to lie and decieve. Its just that its an option and given that you face discrimination being so open, it would seem a rational thing to do if the sanctions outweighed the benefits. Ofcourse it depends on your own courage and strrength as an individual to a large degree.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redknight View Post
    I'm not giving you a hard time, so would you stop trying to insinuate that I am a closest trans. I never said you had to lie and decieve. Its just that its an option and given that you face discrimination being so open, it would seem a rational thing to do if the sanctions outweighed the benefits. Ofcourse it depends on your own courage and strrength as an individual to a large degree.
    Whoo up hunn. Point one - where did I insinuate that you are a closet Trans? I didn't. That was ur interpretation of what I wrote but not what I wrote. Most str8 folk are trying to live up to something they aren't, trying to achieve something they haven't and alot are therefore hiding in my opinion. He who doth protest so much......? Shakespeare
    Point two - I never said you said I had to lie but you did ask the questions as to why didnt I just lie and I answered that. Please go read my post again and look unbaisedly on it with out looking for the fight. I am not seeking one. I gave you the reasons why I dont want to lie and asked why should I and other Ts have to lie. Why should we have to be intimated by discrimination and why cant we be accepted? Why cant we be treated equally and not like some imoral freak when we arent that.
    Point 3 - courage and strength I have I promise but alot of T's dont but again why should they be forced into lying and not just accepted?
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    Quote Originally Posted by storm4u View Post
    Whoo up hunn. Point one - where did I insinuate that you are a closet Trans? I didn't. That was ur interpretation of what I wrote but not what I wrote. He who doth protest so much......? Shakespeare
    Point two - I never said you said I had to lie but you did ask the questions as to why didnt I just lie and I answered that. Please go read my post again and look unbaisedly on it with out looking for the fight. I am not seeking one. I gave you the reasons why I dont want to lie and asked why should I and other Ts have to lie. Why should we have to be intimated by discrimination and why cant we be accepted? Why cant we be treated equally and not like some imoral freak when we arent that.
    Point 3 - courage and strength I have I promise but alot of T's dont but again why should they be forced into lying and not just accepted?
    I have highlighted in bold where you continue to insinuate...anyway it doesnt bother me. Not looking for a fight, just because I didn't pat you on the shoulder like everyone else here- I only was inquisitive in trying to learn more about your struggle, as it sounds like an amazing journey.

    I dont have all the answers to your questions sorry, but I think few would see you as an immoral freak. Those who do I have little/no time for.

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    Quote Originally Posted by storm4u View Post
    I speak up and out so that people have a chance to understand Trans so if you want to ask questions of me, please do. I will answer all reasonable questions and debate but I am not here for ridicule and will not stand personal attacks.
    I put this up to stimulate thought and understanding with tolerance.
    And I have read your post and was only asking a reasonable question. Please dont interpret it as anything else than that. Cheers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redknight View Post
    I have highlighted in bold where you continue to insinuate...anyway it doesnt bother me. Not looking for a fight, just because I didn't pat you on the shoulder like everyone else here- I only was inquisitive in trying to learn more about your struggle, as it sounds like an amazing journey.

    I dont have all the answers to your questions sorry, but I think few would see you as an immoral freak. Those who do I have little/no time for.
    Sorry you have interupted what I say differently then was meant. I have not insinuated that YOU are a Trans. That is the way you have defensively choosen to take it. I was merely pointing out that in my experience, those who tend to give T's a hard time are often hiding somnething themselves.
    I said I believe in my first post that I wasnt looking for sympathy and nor am I looking for your pat on the shoulder. I also said in an earlier post that I am nothing special just a normal person.
    I fail to see where you were trying to learn more by telling me that we would be better off to hide and lie?
    I appreciate your last comment tho so thanks for that. We arent freaks and that is the perception I and others are trying to dispell - thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by redknight View Post
    I'm wondering if its so hard to be open and out about it why not just hide it like many probably do. Having to come to terms with accepting the change must be very hard, why make your life harder than it need be by being so public about it. Im not saying theres anything wrong with the way you deal with it, but surely there must be pros and cons for both repressing it and coming out with it openly. I mean in some countries/cities it would be eaiser. NZ is probably not the easiest. I imagine in some very repressive countries it would be near impossible so you would have to repress it. Just wondering what was the tipping point?
    Sorry but I only see 1 question here and that is the 'tipping' question to which I responded that I didnt understand. The rest is your opinion and I addressed that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by storm4u View Post
    Sorry but I only see 1 question here and that is the 'tipping' question to which I responded that I didnt understand. The rest is your opinion and I addressed that.
    "I'm wondering if its so hard to be open and out about it why not just hide it like many probably do. Having to come to terms with accepting the change must be very hard, why make your life harder than it need be by being so public about it?. Im not saying theres anything wrong with the way you deal with it, but surely there must be pros and cons for both repressing it and coming out with it openly. I mean in some countries/cities it would be eaiser. NZ is probably not the easiest. I imagine in some very repressive countries it would be near impossible so you would have to repress it. Just wondering what was the tipping point?"

    For want of one question mark (in bold) you have misinterpreted my post as my opinion when it was speculation/conjecture, hope that clears it up.

    And as for the tipping point, I mean when one decides to no longer to hide it and embrace it fully?
    Last edited by redknight; 25-05-2009 at 10:20 PM.

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