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    Quote Originally Posted by Meadow40 View Post
    People stay because it costs to spilt, married or not.
    People stay because they don't want to be, or are afraid of being - alone. Fair enough. Some people aren't loners
    People stay because there may be unpleasant consequences if they don't. Some people are trapped. Yucky shit.
    Some are made whole by being in a relationship.
    I know this missy/meadow character bugs a lot of people but let's admit she sometimes has insight that we dont.
    Battening down the hatches now.
    Yana you're just Yana.

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    Hehehehe.... I love you, too, Steve
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wilbert View Post
    I suspect it would have to be a very, very special sort of person to win your heart Kelly....
    They'd have to win it pretty quick. My patience level averages around 0.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kelly View Post
    I dated a few people since the last time I posted.

    And I am firmly in the stay single club.

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    a few who've dodged a bullet then

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    Quote Originally Posted by stevesblues View Post
    People stay because they don't want to be, or are afraid of being - alone. Fair enough. Some people aren't loners
    People stay because there may be unpleasant consequences if they don't. Some people are trapped. Yucky shit.
    Some are made whole by being in a relationship.
    I know this missy/meadow character bugs a lot of people but let's admit she sometimes has insight that we dont.
    Battening down the hatches now.
    Yana you're just Yana.
    Lol I'm no character lol. And only insight into relationships is my experience only with two great guys. I've been lucky!!
    Other insight yep that I do have damn it! Lol.

    People stay for so many different reasons. I know many who stay with the known rather than try Unknown.
    Took me everything I had to leave my marriage cos he didn't do anything wrong, he's an awesome person. It was damn hard. Easier I guess if guys a prick or you hate each other but splitting a lifetime of monetary gain can be too much for some. Live life out comfortably or struggling again can keep people where they are.

    Codependency too if person feels nothing without other person.

    Whatever a person chooses in life, partner or no partner, it is what makes you happier and enriches your life you should choose. None of us are the same!
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    very well put
    Quote Originally Posted by Meadow40 View Post
    Lol I'm no character lol. And only insight into relationships is my experience only with two great guys. I've been lucky!!
    Other insight yep that I do have damn it! Lol.

    People stay for so many different reasons. I know many who stay with the known rather than try Unknown.
    Took me everything I had to leave my marriage cos he didn't do anything wrong, he's an awesome person. It was damn hard. Easier I guess if guys a prick or you hate each other but splitting a lifetime of monetary gain can be too much for some. Live life out comfortably or struggling again can keep people where they are.

    Codependency too if person feels nothing without other person.

    Whatever a person chooses in life, partner or no partner, it is what makes you happier and enriches your life you should choose. None of us are the same!

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    I've been in several serious long term relationships.

    I have this amazing ability to get involved with narcissistic abusive men, and so have left every relationship (bar one) for this reason. My husband unfortunately suffered a severe spinal cord injury and severe depression as a result ( hes no longer depressed). The emotional toll on me was just too great and as such we separated but are still married and are very good friends and will always be in each others life. I think that had the accident and depression not occurred we would still be together.

    Personally, I think that that forever love/relationship is very very rare, but that it does happen. I also think that it is un-natural for people to pair for life, unless they are in that very rare forever love zone.

    These are some of the reason why I think relationships end.

    1. People grow and change (hopefully) and sometimes one partner just outgrows the other.
    2. People get into relationships purely based on lust --- then find out they actually don't really like the other person.
    3. People are initially not truly honest about who they are, their belief systems, values, morals etc.
    4.. Failure to communicate.
    5. Taking the other person for granted and not valuing them as individuals.
    6. People just stop trying in the relationships, conversations stop, showers become elective, date night is like What? The nice little things that were there in the beginning stop.
    7. Other things become more important, like work, alcohol, drugs, slither.
    8. Possessiveness and jealousy.
    9. Co-dependence.

    That's my list I think. Sounds like I'm jaded, but I'm actually quite the romantic.

    I have to say though that I really really like my lifestyle. I get to have so many wonderful men in my life this way and so now I am just spoiled for choice.

    There are times that I miss being in a serious relationship, like when I'm not felling well and wish there was someone to tuck me in and fluff my pillow, when tectonic plates decide to go walk about, rubbish day..........

    But I really love having so many men, such diversity of personalities, backgrounds, interests, cocks, tongues .......

    My grandparents were married over 70 years so I know it happens. I say just enjoy life and surround yourself with people who like having you in your life.

    Shelby xx
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    Quote Originally Posted by DryHumper View Post
    Hey busy bee.
    Shut it.
    No one cares. zzzz
    Don't you have work to do?



    In all honesty though, there is always far more than just wanting sex (if you know what I mean) for a dude like me.
    I get so anxious about that kind of stuff and over-think things.

    I certainly wouldn't turn down the chance to be with a woman that shared my interests and passions (I'm not talking about sex) but I don't think I'm the kind of person to let sex alone influence long-term decisions like marriage.

    Of course, I'm a dude so of course I like sex and have naughty thoughts yes. but how do you balance that with a healthy sense of ego and productiveness? I don't know

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    I don't understand the question

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    I'm so glad I came across this thread as I've been feeling this way. I really don't feel like I'm going to ever settle down with someone, as I am far too focused on work and my "other" career.

    In a way I guess this work has tainted my view on love. I now know that 98% of men are unfaithful and the 2% that are faithful are gay and happily married.

    If I were to ever have a meaningful relationship with a man then it would have to be polyamorous and on the basis that I don't want to know any details.

    I genuinely believe however that I will be that tatted up old bat with purple wash hair at the rest home with no kidlets to visit me or a husband to mourn the loss of (cause you know how women outlive men) and I'll be barking at the nurses "back in my day we listened to REAL music!" Lmfao
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