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    To Network or Not to Network | Amber O'Hara, MILF escort, Christchurch New Zealand

    Is it possible to befriend people you meet in the industry? Would you want to? Have you?

    When you hear people like that big-forehead-guy from the Chiefs (whose name I didn't catch) say that strippers, and he means all sex workers, do not have a good standing in society, or are filthy rotton whores who can't be trusted, or however he paraphrased it and the Nordic model of sex work advocates, who say that clients are just exploiterers, does it make you wonder if it's a good idea to network with each other? Can we really all just get along, and/or should we?

    Many of us socialise, and some of us don't and would never want to. What are your thoughts on networking? Other industries make a big thing of networking - should the sex industry? And are we doing it right?
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    many of the WGs I have met I would bee proud to have as friends,any people who denigrate them have never taken there time to find out what great people most are. Also from following this forum,I have come to the conclusion many of the punters here are pretty good types too. More networking can only be a good thing.

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    I love my WG friends, some of my deepest friendships are with WGs because we are in the same boat. It is almost the same with the clients I am friends with. Kind of a common secret.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mainland View Post
    many of the WGs I have met I would bee proud to have as friends,any people who denigrate them have never taken there time to find out what great people most are. Also from following this forum,I have come to the conclusion many of the punters here are pretty good types too. More networking can only be a good thing.
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    I'm going to call this on personal choice. My own experience, in my own industry is below.

    I actively networked, including lobbying government on behalf of my industry. It significantly raised my profile within my industry (other industry players formed part of my customer base), but not significantly to my retail customer base. It took up time, but the benefits of increased profile and a greater awareness of potential changes in the industry was invaluable information to me.

    Conversely, another industry player I respect highly has little or no involvement in any networking, choosing instead to keep largely to himself. He is a sharp operator, and has done very well for himself.

    So I think it is very much an individual choice, if you network easily, then do it. If you prefer to go it alone, that clearly works too. I can assure you however, that to get all players in an industry group into the same room, let alone on the same page, is like herding cats

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hello Sailor View Post
    ...I can assure you however, that to get all players in an industry group into the same room, let alone on the same page, is like herding cats
    Absolutely!

    And not just that, like feminism and it's various branches, most sex workers have different opinions on aspects of the industry and how things can or should be done.

    Even opinions about this very forum differ a lot! Some think it is the digital devil, others think it's useful and fun. Some hate reviews, others cherish them. Some hate it so much and want no part of it that they go on DND.

    I think the NZPC have it right - they are our advocates and are fantastic spokespeople on the bigger picture, yet without sweating the small stuff.
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    I actually enjoy the friendships I've made.

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    Friendships in my eyes are about being true, honest and respectful. It's nice having friends you are like minded with and can share secrets with. I cherish the friendships I have made in this industry especially with clients! Trust doesn't come easy but when it does its valuable!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissyOMore View Post
    Friendships in my eyes are about being true, honest and respectful. It's nice having friends you are like minded with and can share secrets with. I cherish the friendships I have made in this industry especially with clients! Trust doesn't come easy but when it does its valuable!
    I'm very careful who I share my secrets with. Its not easy to friends in this industry. Most ladies are very guarded find, a few are very open. I'm not sure wot makes a good friendship between client and escort . Lotsa visits sometimes works

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    Yes trust takes a while to build, and it can be very disheartening when it is broken. I don't think it's necessarily around the sharing of secrets entirely but sometimes that is a part of it. However, having said that - my own positive experiences with working girls and punters outweighs the negative or sad by miles and I'm a glass half full type of person by nature anyway, so I hold onto the happy memories, anything else can fall by the wayside.

    I consider myself very lucky to have crossed paths with many of you. THANK YOU SO MUCH. <3
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jackunder 69 View Post
    I'm very careful who I share my secrets with. Its not easy to friends in this industry. Most ladies are very guarded find, a few are very open. I'm not sure wot makes a good friendship between client and escort . Lotsa visits sometimes works
    A connection, trust, and respect!

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