My first thread starter, on a well covered subject. I am also going to throw a fair bit out there, I expect flack from some, meh.
I was recently in a long discussion with a new lady friend about anal sex and was asked if I could post a gentle reminder to the punters out there about what one should and SHOULD NOT do when it comes to the art of the dark side.....
I have read a lot of threads about this and some very good points have been raised by Yana and Amber Ohara both on Forum in in their own private postings. Based upon my recent discussion with this lady I spoke with perhaps a couple of reminders might not go astray.
For those that think bums are one way (exit only) or are perhaps a bit squeamish about this topic then perhaps a move on to another thread might be advised. I will be fairly blunt.
My qualifications for writing this are not nearly as good as Yana or Amber, or as I am sure many very talented ladies out there... I have only introduced four ex girlfriends to this particular kind of intimate play and have become an ardent fan of the other side... ladies who do prostate massage and/or Strap On. However, I am writing from a position of one who knows both how to do.. and to receive anal play. I will say however that I lost my virginity to a very kinky young lady who after trying to get me off in various ways looked at me and said, "fuck me in the ass" I have been an ass man ever since.
Basically there are two MAIN rules, HYGIENE and LUBRICANT.
Speaking from personal experience a person who wishes to have receptive anal sex will take the time to ensure that internal cleansing has been done about an hour or less before the encounter- see, you were squeamish and you still read on -this can be achieved best by personal anal douche or a shower attachment that I remember one of our kinkier punters posting a picture of.. I have both... and your advertising Greek WG will be doing this as well.. they charge extra because it takes time to be ready. Please respect this..
Anal play generally does NOT start with jamming your prick into a ladies bum, they want to be warmed up, they WANT foreplay, but this MUST be done with some basic ground rules. Wash your hands well and trim your nails before your booking, personally from the other side I generally see ladies who do anal so that they know how to be clean and gentle with first insertion. That second word was important boys... GENTLE. Rub your finger back and forth gently over the anus, move it in gentle circles.. watch her, ask her, communicate.
Once your finger has been in a ladies bum it MUST NEVER go into her vagina afterwards,,, and into her mouth..? ICK. She will probably never see you again if you try. Ladies will usually want something smaller than your dick as the first thing in her bum.. if its your finger make sure its clean and trimmed, yup, posted that twice. What you see in a porno is not what you should ever expect in real life, things like ATM and ass to pussy fucking are very risky behaviours regardless of condom.. and what you usually see is not covered.. shiver. Cross contamination infection risks abound.. YES.. a lady can develop a nasty infection from something being moved from anus to vagina.. don't do it.
I often say there are three things to remember about anal sex.. Lubricant, Lubricant, Lubricant, a ladies bum is not her vagina, it does not get wet like a vagina does, no duh. Lets see, does that mean you can spit a bit of saliva into a ladies crack and shove your finger in.. NO. Does that mean you can shove your finger in with no lubricant.. ? NO. I mean seriously, your Doctor uses Vaseline to do a prostate check on you.. for goodness sake show the lady at least that respect.. If you are really moving onto full on anal sex then I go back to that word I used earlier.. GENTLE.. then slowly ramp up the speed and depth.. with plenty of lubricant. You may well be surprised how much she gets into it.. I remember I was first time.. both ways.
I have followed these rules for ages.. all four of those ex girlfriends? Continued to enjoy anal sex with me for as long as the relationship lasted.. sigh, one is still a friend though so I cant have been all bad.
Ok, my post is done, I await the fallout.